Have you ever dealt with a person knowing they didn't do it for you?

Have you ever dealt with a person knowing they didn't do it for you?

Seems as if relationships aren't cracked up to what they used to be... It used to be a time that you met a person, things might not have been perfect but then you were able to work it out.

But in this day and age, people have so many choices... why stick with someone that doesn't do it for you?

I guess this is fresh on my mind because I have dated some one in the past who was not the type of person I would normally entertain relationship wise. I usually date a certain type of guy. This particular guy I wasn't attracted to physically at all. Sexually, we weren't a match either. However, there were perks to our relationship such as we had fun together, he treated me nice and he was a gentlemen 98% of the time. However, I could never see myself with this person. So as many times, as I would like to call it quites... the benefits that were associated with our acquaintance kind of outweighed the drawbacks.

So as I am writing this I am starting to think of other relationships, and how there are different ways of dealing with a person knowing they did not do it for me.

Another prime example, was the relationship I had with my child's father. This relationship started as most do... in the heat of the Summer. They say there is nothing like Summer love. It seemed like something that I might have wanted to pursue long term except for a few things. Problem number one... was he could not understand or tolerate shall I say that I was smarter than him. It wasn't my fault, that was how the cards panned out... what was I suppose to do, play stupid. I mean we grew up in two different places, I am from Jersey (13 miles South of Manhattan to be exact) and he is from Baltimore, where there is seriously something in the water. So anyway, we had a lot of ups and downs, a lot of good times and bad times, but I noticed a pattern was consuming our relationship. We kept beefing over his mother, a subject matter that would plague our acquaintance for years to come. It took me a while to realize that my daughter's father was a Mama's boy. Every breath he took, he had to ask Mama before doing so... even to this day she still is the one that pulls his strings. I mean don't get me wrong, who would not want a man that loves his Mama. But I do feel that if a man is going to be in a relationship, his mother must know her role, and running my household ain't it.

So after years of trying to figure out what went wrong, I came to this conclusion: When in a relationship, make sure you and the other person have an understanding that it is just the two of you, not the two of you and a third-party. Otherwise, you will never be on the same page. The second thing, I got from this relationship is: If Mama is pulling the strings, it is best not to deal with this type of man, especially if your have an in control attitude yourself... it will only lead to unnecessary stress. The third thing, I got from this relationship is: It's not ok not to be happy, if you are not happy in a relationship... the exit is the best place to head to... because chances are it will just get worse.

So, getting back to the original question: have you ever dealt with someone that didn't do it for you?