Take a chance on something new!

Well, today was "Therapy Thursday"! As I love expanding my mental health so much. So, I discussed the run of the mill stuff that I do. Then, I briefly I started to talk about this gentlemen that I have been dealing with recently.



This particular gentlemen is not the typical guy that I would date. However, there are a lot of things about him I like. He has great conversation and an excellent communicator! He is sensitive and a good listener as well. I enjoy the time we share. However, there are some "signs" to could be "red flags"!



For example, he has two kids by two different women. This is not a problem for me but the way he deals with them does generate problems. See, he has a daughter by one woman and does not see the daughter. Him and the mother can not communicate. Therefore, he does not see the child. He has stopped paying child support because she won't let him see the child.

On the other hand, the relationship he has with his son's mother is unclear. However, it appears that he has a better relationship with her. He will take the son and spend time with him, frequently.

Now, the reason why I am bother by all of this is because I have a daughter. Although, he is not my daughter's father and I don't know anything about the circumstances their relationship(s). I do know that because my daughter is girl, her father could care less about her existence. Men being so fixated on the sex of their child is stupid to me. Child are children, and they didn't ask to be here. Little girls need their father just as much, if not more...

Moving forward, as I spoke with my therapist. I discussed how I same resembles to my daughter's father. Things that were good and things that I didn't like... We didn't get into a deep conversation but I did ponder about whether or not I was going to continue to see him. I had kind of distanced myself from him because I didn't want history to repeat himself. Then again, I thought to myself he could be different.

So as I was driving down the road, I called him. He answered. The conversation was easy and free flowing. He kind of in a round about way said that he missed me, and vice versa. He asked why hasn't he heard from me, and I told him--space. As the conversation proceeded, he said you know what-- "You are like my daughter's mother"! I laughed, and said you remind me too much like my daughter's father, and honestly that's why I haven't been calling because I didn't want to get caught up with something I dealt with before. we talked about our past relationship issues for a while. I can honestly say that I was able to distinguish a difference. I felt a little more comfortable about dealing with him.

In closing, you may meet someone new that may remind you of someone from the past. However, they may not be that person that you thought you know. You may be able to take the girl part of the person from the past and have a future with someone new. Long story short... take a chance! You never know what you may discover!

Peace & Blessings...

Mrs. Make It Happen